Grounding is absolutely one of the four pillars of meditation. So, what makes grounding so important?
It’s presence. We hear and talk about this thing called being present, but what does it do for us? How will we know if we achieve it? What will we feel or see or hear? These are all great questions. Let’s explore them.
Often we get sidetracked or pulled off our center by simple things that aren’t a big deal unless we dwell on them. You might be biking or driving to work and someone cuts you off. Maybe you just had an angry or difficult conversation with a loved one. Even something as simple as a coffee shop running out of your favorite pastry can set you into a tailspin if you don’t pay attention.
We don’t have to get stuck here. In fact, when another person tells us about these experiences, we might think to ourselves, oh, just get over it, it's no big deal. We’ve all been there. These are the things that keep us from being grounded. We allow ourselves to stay attached to small inconveniences. Have you ever been kind of excited to tell someone about the hideous thing that just happened to you? It’s kind of an oxymoron, isn’t it: to be excited to talk about something negative? Sometimes the things we gain from the negative (getting sympathy, for example) are the ways we trick ourselves out of staying grounded.